Sooner or later, feminism must be a movement among men if it is to achieve its goals. After all, we men are the crux of the problem.
The facts about women’s oppression are so well known that I will not go through them here. Be it domestic abuse, sexual assault, unequal pay, lack of benefits, feminist writers have been informing us of these injustices for decades. The obvious conclusion from these facts is who is at fault: it’s us – men.
We men are the one who strike, assault, deny and oppress women. Let’s stop denying it. It’s true. Like AA, the first step to recovery is to admit that we have a problem.
I wonder why we men do such things to women. They are our partners, wives, daughters, sisters, friends, and colleagues. All these women are people we claim to love – so why do we treat them with zero respect and deny them the most common, garden-variety equality? I don’t get it.
Are we somehow more of a man by stepping on women? That is a pretty weird version of manhood. It is like the bizarre idea in many parts of the world that a guy with a gun in his hand is manlier than a guy with a wrench in his hand. We see it much on the evening news: third-world militia thugs swaggering for the camera, celebrating the manly practice of kidnapping schoolgirls.
I will take a mechanic with his wrench over a militia thug with his machine gun any day in the week. Real men fix and build things, not kidnap girls. Yes, I understand that fixing and building things isn’t sexy yet, and it is actually kind of hard, requiring real work, but men need to change this perspective immediately. If we do not, we continue to be the problem, like the militia thugs in the evening news.
Are we men here in the States that much different than Boko Haran? American society traffics about 300 women and girls a week, but it doesn’t create a Twitter tsunami about it because it happens quietly, by ones and twos. But who kidnaps them? Men. Who buys and sells them? Men. Who is silent about it? Men. Who can stop it? Men.
How thuggish our behaviors is here in the States when we hit women, assault them, deny them equality and human rights. What is wrong with we men? Are we that much dissimilar to Boko Haran after all?
I’m no expert in feminist thought, but I do know a thing or two about decency, respect, and justice. Our first step as men is to admit that we are the problem, and we men need to start talking to each other about it. Life is tough enough for all of us, and we are all in this thing together, both men and women. Let’s be the friend of women, not their enemy.